Rules For Casual Dating

Casual dating may seem like an ideal scenario. Have you ever wondered exactly what casual dating is? To some people it sounds glamorous and mysterious. To others it sounds like a polite term for sleeping around. In reality, many casual dating relationships have nothing to do with sex. Here are a few things to consider before deciding whether or not casual dating is right for you.

How to know if casual dating is for you

The thing about casual dating is for it to work it must go both ways.  You can’t give yourself complete freedom to date other women yet force the girl to be exclusive only to you.  This creates an unbalanced and unhealthy relationship. That’s more about control than anything else.  It’s the type of arrangement that’s likely to create a lot of drama before it comes crashing down.

So before you start looking for casual relationships ask yourself, are you really okay with the women you date going out and potentially sleeping with other guys?

Make your intentions known

Once you know what kind of relationship you want, let your intentions be known.  Within the first couple of dates talk to the girl about what you’re each looking for in a relationship. To make sure she doesn’t feel any pressure when answering this question you may want to go first and let her know what it is you’re looking for.

You may lose a few girls rather quickly this way, but that’s exactly the point.  You’re filtering out women who aren’t compatible with what you want. Instead, you’ll be free to find the girl who fit your lifestyle.

Double check your status

Let’s say you told the girl on the first date you weren’t looking for anything serious. On some occasions a woman will say she’s not looking for anything serious when deep down she is.  But she’s willing to wait a few weeks for you to change your mind. She starts feeling more connected and becomes interested in something more.  For these reasons it’s a good idea to revisit the topic of your relationship status after you’ve been seeing each other for a while.

Set Boundaries

If you want to keep a relationship casual then you’ve got to set up some boundaries. So if you’re casually dating a girl be sure to avoid “boyfriend” type behavior.  Don’t call or text her nearly every day.  Don’t have her meet the family. Actions like these can blur the lines of your relationship and send mixed signals, planting the thought in her mind that the relationship is becoming more serious.  If you don’t want her thinking that way and are not interested in having her as a serious girlfriend, then avoid giving her a taste of that role.

Casual dating is all about keeping your options open and playing the field so that you can figure out what type of person you are most compatible with. Try to find a girl thinking the same way as you on